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Average number of dates before sex


There are a lot of people who wonder how many dates you should wait to have sex — or just want to know how many dates other people are waiting. Remember the three date rule? The guideline that still exists in some circles! It was really popular for a long time, but I don't buy it, and neither do others.

It's time we say Average number of dates before sex to that guideline, and challenge the question as a whole. Because really, the question is a pointless one.

Who cares how long other people are waiting?

You're getting intimate with someone...

Why do you think what's right for them will be right for you? If you want to have a healthy and happy sex life, it shouldn't be by anyone else's standards but your own. Especially because, as you'll see, the amount of time that people wait varies so much. We also need to rethink the language of how long people "wait" to have sex. It makes it sound like it's something from which we should hold ourselves back. It encourages the idea that it's an instinct we should fight.

In reality, some people don't "wait" at all.

And why should they? If they want to do it, there's nothing to wait for.

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Here's why the idea of waiting to have sex doesn't matter. When you look at the numbers, there is no clear picture Average number of dates before sex how long "most" people wait— and that's a good thing. One YouGov survey says that only 12 per cent of people follow the three date rule, compared to 18 per cent who go right for it on date number one. But another surveythis one from Glamour, says that a much higher percentage — 46 per cent of men and 33 per cent of women — have had sex on the first date.

The numbers don't add up because everybody is doing different things. People have such varying attitudes toward sex that when you ask one group you'll get a totally different answer than if you ask another.