The kind of non-verbal conversation you can have with another person is very short and to the point, although for most people the signals are not entirely clear. Here are several ways you can read body language and be reasonably sure of what the other person is feeling. Also, if you are not certain about one body language sign then look for others.
We often use the same signals in different situations. This can be a resolute pose, where someone is about to start an important or lengthy task and they are organizing their thoughts, or it can be an angry pose where someone means to put a stop to something.
This stance is very confrontational and can be quite intimidating. It takes a lot of energy for the body to maintain this rigid state. It is a way for the body to let off a little energy without actually doing anything. It is
Intimidating pose reference holding a commanding, authoritative stance.
Children learn quickly to settle down and focus their attention on adults who assume this pose. It is a very subtle way of taking control of the situation you are confronted with, all without having to say a word. Women and children assume this position more often than men.
However, people often take this position when they are feeling tired and listless, too, so it does not necessarily mean they are "Intimidating pose reference holding" fearful or submissive.
The hands-in-lap pose is sometimes used by effective therapists as a disarming mechanism, removing a sense of intimidation from their conversations with patients.
But there is a darker side to the hands-in-lap pose. They bring their arms and legs close to their bodies as if they are battening down the hatches, waiting for a storm to pass, and you may not even know a storm is raging or about to start up.
You should look at how the other person is holding his or her head and shoulders when "Intimidating pose reference holding" have their hands in their lap. If they are alert, with head held high and shoulders drawn back, think of a Venus Flytrap waiting to strike. If they are hunkered down, leaning forward, or reclining backwards think of Intimidating pose reference holding who has just been pummeled to near-unconsciousness in a fist fight.
This means the other person wants to leave the vicinity as soon as possible. It could also mean they have an urgent need or task. It could mean they just want to leave. Think of a cat trapped in a cage at the zoo, pacing back and forth.
It wants out but cannot leave. If the other person is barefoot and it is hot outside, their movement could also mean their feet are burning or that they have injured one foot. But even in these situations the back-and-forth action means they Intimidating pose reference holding trapped in a situation from which they cannot escape.
This can be a seductive glance, a completely mesmerized fascination, or an angry glare. In all cases when the other person is staring into your eyes, they are trying to capture your attention and hold it. This is always an attempt to overpower your will and break down your resistance.
A romantic partner or someone who wants to be a romantic partner wants you to become as fascinated with him or her as he or she is fascinated with you. Someone who is your adoring fan may want you to recognize their admiration and devotion. Someone who is angry at you wants to ignore everything else and deal with whatever their priority is. For example, imagine a child who is trying
Intimidating pose reference holding cross a river on a dangerous hanging bridge that has suddenly become unstable.
Staring contests are a fun game children play. The person who stares the longest is the one who wins. In flirtation when a dominant partner locks eyes with a submissive partner, the submissive partner looks down first.
This behavior may change as they build a relationship together and become more comfortable with each other. Psychologists reason that average people maintain a private, intimate zone around their bodies of about 6 inches. Some people keep their private zone at a larger distance if they are feeling anxious, annoyed, or threatened. When you are truly being intimate with another person in a sexual or non-sexual way you both silently agree to lower your barriers and draw closer.
Non-sexual intimacy includes medical examinations, whispering, helping other people with their clothing or things they are carrying, and carrying or assisting people as they move about.
We respect intimate space partly out of a sense of self-preservation. If you get too close to another person you may feel uncomfortable. If the other person comes too close to you then you may feel the need to move or make room. This defensive behavior helps us maintain a safe distance from each other so that people can be comfortable near each other. Touching other people is a way of taking control of their personal situation. Touch can be a very pleasant sensation and when coupled with the right lighting, room "Intimidating pose reference holding," and sound touch can be very, very seductive.
Touching other people is also a way of testing how much they trust you and how open they are to being in the same situation with you.
If you reach out to touch another person and they pull away that means they do not want to be near you. It is no accident that we extend our hands toward each other in gestures of peace and friendship.
The handshake or arm clasp is a universal signal of openness to personal intimacy, especially with someone else who might be very dangerous to you.
If you are talking to another person and they do not
Intimidating pose reference holding their whole body to face you, that means they are either hiding something from you or they do not want to include you in whatever they are doing. The way our bodies face is an indication of where our attention is focused, and that can mean something important is either in front of us or behind us.
People deliberately turn away from other people when they are angry, and so the person you refuse to face is actually what is most important to you. The way you face the other person is also important. We do this to be fair to "Intimidating pose reference holding" in the room both by giving them each due attention and by not making anyone the center of our own attention for too long. When the speaker pauses and focuses on one person, all eyes in the room turn to that new center of attention.
Facing someone who has angered you means they are receiving ALL of your attention; you may be implying that if they push you too far they will receive more attention from you than they want. Be careful when waking sleeping giants!
Turning away from another person is an arrogant gesture.
It tells them you do not fear them. If you do it forcefully and angrily it may also tell them you think nothing of their ability to hurt you.
People touch themselves often throughout the day and they seldom think about what they are doing. They may adjust their clothing, adjust their hair, fix their glasses, scratch an itch, or rub their arms.
In all cases self-touching is a soothing act meant to relieve some stress. Even wiping your hands clean is an act of relieving stress. Your body becomes distressed for all sorts of reasons.
Your respiratory system is regulated by the brain but the brain seldom directs the system in a deliberate way. When you draw a deep breath and let it out slowly you are taking a deliberate action. When you yawn you are taking a deliberate action. We use self-touch to reassure ourselves.