I've had a lot of people ask why it's important to have consistent discipline. For a while my husband and I stopped, well, we didn't really stop,we just didn't have time and our marriage came apart. I resented him for not noticing that I needed his authority and accountability.
I started to feel unloved and unnoticed and we ended up in a really bad place. After a few sessions with a marriage therapist, she recommended that we re-commit to maintenance spankings at a minimum of two times per week. She also recommended that we use a spanking machine or put in place a regular method for self spanking when my husband is gone for work.
It took us several months to get this going but I am happy to report that our marriage is back on track and blossoming and has never felt better for either of us.
I thought we were on the verge of divorce and now I can't imagine being without him. How we turned things around: I was given two maintenance spankings a week and these were not just vague spankings which I think is where couples miss out on the meaning of the maintenance spanking. They are supposed to help you maintain good behavior and do the things you want to do. So, our therapist recommended that before each maintenance spanking, I write down what I wanted to be reminded of and my husband reads it with me.
He then tells me to take off my clothes and "I want a spanking" over his knees. While I'm
I want a spanking vulnerable draped over his lap he reminds me of my list and commits himself to help hold me accountable for everything on that list.
Then he asks me what will happen if I stray from the list and I verbally acknowledge that I will be punished. This verbal communication is important to keep us bonded and focused on the joint goal of becoming a better person and it bonds us in our commitment to each other.
He spanks me with his bare hand long and hard, usually around swats or until my bottom is bright red and hot and I am crying. Our therapist recommended that
I want a spanking sessions were more forceful and issued right away.
This is hard when we're not alone or in public, but we made a commitment to try to be better at it.
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We were once really good at it but over time we lost the motivation or he would let me beg my way out of it. Now, we have two silent tools, one kept at home and one that he has me carry in my handbag wherever we go. The moment I swear or cop an attitude, he whisks me into a private bathroom and gives me whips with the loopy johnny making sure my bottom is red and stingy so that I am reminded of it for the rest of the night.
No one is
I want a spanking wiser and I am I want a spanking reminded that he is noticing and will do whatever is needed in the moment to hold me accountable. It shows me instantly how much he loves me and how committed he is to us. My best friend asks me...
Discipline sessions are more severe and his authority is executed more sternly. This was recommended by our therapist as well because I
I want a spanking becoming depressed and she recommended that my negativity be added to our list and the punishment such that it would deter me from feeling negative about myself and the world. It sounds odd but it has worked wonders. When sadness or depression swoops in on me, my husband paddles it away and refocuses me for the rest of the day or even the next several days.
These sessions are longer, usually minutes of being whipped with his belt, the longer whip that stings and sometimes even the paddle or cane.
For him it's a huge release as well just knowing that he can do something to help relieve my depression. It makes him feel better to release his frustration onto
I want a spanking bottom knowing it is helping me. He whips me until he's exhausted and I'm sobbing and my bottom is hot and red and sore. I don't forget these sessions for days because it hurts to sit down, but they have helped me and saved our marriage. Do you want a spanking?:...
Self-spanking and the machine. When he is gone which is more often now than it used to be, I am instructed to self-spank. He taught me how to administer a solid spanking by myself and I now do this once a week. If I need to be punished while he is gone, I confess to him over the phone what I have done that deserves punishment and he instructs me of how
I want a spanking swats to take from the spanking machine. He then watches via the computer while I receive my discipline, promising me that there will be more when he gets home and can deal with it directly.
Self-spanking and the spanking machine have kept me calm and in a better place when he is gone. That's all for now. There's more that I'll share later but if you have fallen off the horse, take my advice and put
I want a spanking 4 steps back into your marriage.
You will be happier and healthier! Posted by Heather Wright at 9: Domestic DisciplineDominancehusband spanking wifequiet spanking toolred bottomreminder spankingself spankingspanked in publicspanked with his beltSpanking Machinewife being spanked. We got a lot of emails asking us to outline our DD methods and what works best. We're happy to share what we do but you need to know that what works for one couple might not be the right tactic for another.
You have to be willing to try new things and change things that aren't working. TIPS The trick to submission and dominance is consistency. When consistency fails, the whole thing breaks down. The woman starts to feel unloved, unwanted and unnoticed. She begins to harbor resentment and sadness and anger toward her husband. He feels this change and becomes defensive because he doesn't understand why she is behaving this way toward him.
It can quickly become a dark spiral of "I want a spanking" turmoil. So if you are going to commit to a DD relationship, you have to have a solid commitment from both partners in order for both partners to reap the benefits.
Posted by Heather Wright at 2: I don't blog as much as I used to because there
I want a spanking isn't enough time and we've been trying some other methods of discipline that don't involve me blogging about every time I am given a whipping.
We have tried a lot of things and I want to tell you about the most recent ones that have really worked well for us. As all of you guys know my hubby travels for work and sometimes works from home in his home office that is in our basement. I've gotten many spankings in his office at home, so much that whenever he calls me down there I get those nerves of anticipation in my belly.
Lately, like the past year, he's been
I want a spanking over seas more and those are longer trips. It's taken a toll on me and on our marriage in a way because we haven't been as joined together as we used to be.
I have gotten lonely sometimes and started doing more stuff with my friends and our neighbors. Three months ago, my hubby was home and we had some of our neighbors over for dinner and drinks and games.
One neighbor, Mitch, I've been hanging out with more often then the others lately and I guess maybe we've been a little more flirty then we should have been. He rubbed his thumb over my "I want a spanking" during our card game and my husband noticed it right away.
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When everybody left for the night, my hubby asked
I want a spanking if I had fucked Mitch. It blew up into a horrible fight and we realized that I was angry at him for being gone so much and he was angry at me for being lonely and needing more attention. He asked me if I wanted to fuck Mitch and though I had never done anything with Mitch, I couldn't deny that his attention felt really good to me. My husband asked me if I had been unfaithful to him?
I hadn't, not with my body but with my thoughts, maybe I had. I broke down sobbing feeling awful and angry.
What was worse was he didn't spank me for my admission of having unfaithful thoughts. He didn't do anything. Weeks went by and it was awful.
I thought our marriage was ending. Then a package came in the mail and he took it downstairs to his office without showing it to me.
My mind started to wonder if he was seeing someone on the side and that's why he didn't punish me for having thoughts about Mitch.
A few hours later he called me downstairs and told me that he didn't punish me for my thoughts about Mitch because he knew that the way I was feeling was partially his fault. He said he had neglected me and our marriage and had let his work get in the way of our health. He apologized to me and told me how important I was to him and how much he loved me.
I couldn't believe it. I was so relieved to hear him take responsibility for us and to
I want a spanking him acknowledge that he had left me and left our marriage behind to his job.
We made love on the couch in his office and it was beautiful. Posted by Heather Wright "I want a spanking" 1: Monday, February 13, Waiting. It's been a while since I've blogged but that doesn't mean it's been a while since I've had my bottom spanked. My husband took the pre-spanking blogging requirement off of my list for a while but added it back on today because he said we've been getting a lot of emails requesting the blog to be updated.
So here I am writing this while waiting to be disciplined. Actually, I'm waiting to be punished and I know that I've got what's coming. Posted by Heather Wright at One of the questions we are ask most often is how can couples administer discipline when there are children in the home? This makes things challenging for sure, but it can be done. It takes a huge commitment to obedience and follow-thru.
Here are some pointers: Invest in a silent tool like a Loopy Johnny or a plastic hanger will work. When I'm about to get a spanking for something I know I have done wrong, I feel knotted inside. When he makes me stand in the corner before the spanking, I can't help but replay the infraction over and over in my brain.
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That time, though only a few minutes, helps prepare me to have a submissive attitude so that when he bends me over, I am ready to accept the spanking. His authority is arousing even though the spanking hurts.
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